I remember Simren once said to me “…because you never give up”, upon me asking her what changed her mind about me. If you have been following my blog over the years, you would have read my blog posts about how Simren and I met.
Our happenstance and subsequent encounters were full of troubles, fights and just odium. She wanted nothing to do with me. She hated the fact that I was actively and openly having relationships with women without pledge, including a very close friend of hers, she detested the fact that I was living a life where only one person mattered (me) and that my show of lavish, profligate lifestyle was just an ego booster, a statement I was making which demonstrated my insecurities and arrogance.
This went on for years. From myside, all I wanted was Simren. I was prepared to go any lengths to get her and I was willing to change, all that she hated about me, for her. In my books, that was a big statement. If you want to know more about Simren and my relationship – just search for ‘Simren’ on my blog search field.
In the end, my desire to want her, my persistence and passion not to give up turned her hate into Love.
That’s the message I wanted to bring to you, never give up.
In life, I’ve been through highs and lows, I’ve been to thick and thins and I’ve been knocked down (almost out) on many a times. One thing that I have done in all circumstances and situations is I never gave up.
It is true, the outcome(s) are not always clear and I’ve never been able to measure or gauge the end results in most cases but so long as you give it 100% and apply your faith, desire and persistence it’ll work out in your favour.
In ‘never give up’ attitude, at times, the longer you keep at it the stronger the emotions run to do just the opposite. The fear of ‘not getting anywhere’ or ‘am I wasting my time’ just keeps wanting to knock you down. The lack of results, in your favour, look grim and disheartening but you’ll soon realise that you are being conditioned not to accept failure as an option. You are perfecting your character. You are winning this battle. You are learning and building your arsenal with relevant and valuable tools and skillsets, which otherwise you’d never experience.
I’ve touched on this before on previous blog posts and I’ll mention it again – it is germane. I found myself at a boarding school hundreds of miles away from my family, at the age of 13. Being a British Asian, and probably one of just a few colour students at a predominately affluent, wealthy and white boarding school meant that I wasn’t going to get it easy. It wasn’t going to be easy and I needed to build myself up to learn and adopt to ‘never give up’.
Don’t be surprised to learn that when this morning, I received a phone call from my appointed solicitors/barristers that I’d been given the approval and the ‘go ahead’ for a very important venture to begin after almost 4 years of delay, I was jubilant yet realistic. The uphill struggle, against all odds and despite all the ‘so called’ experts and their advice that it’ll ‘never happen and will never be approved’, I’ve gone ahead and proved to myself, yet again, a very important lesson ‘never give up’.
When I, briefly, spoke to Simren over the phone this lunch time, she mentioned it again “…because you never gave up” and if you are reading this blog post, and have come down to this far in reading what I have to write then go on a little further. The next sentence you’ll read is probably the most important advice I could ever give you.
Never Give Up!